Saturday, August 10, 2013

HERE'S MY ADVICE TO ALL FRIENDS & FAMILY OF PEOPLE WHO HAVE INVISIBLE ILLNESSES LIKE MY MS!

Yvonne Decelis, Columnist, MSnewsChannel.com
I just want to state as a side note to all friends, family members and loved ones of people who have these “invisible” illnesses: whether you can see something is wrong with us or not is not what matters. What is relevant is that you are someone we should be able to depend on and having you call us a liar, or lazy, or any of the other horrible things that you may want to label us is incredibly unfair and hurtful.

How would you feel if someone did something like that to you? Is it
that hard for you to attempt to empathize with us? It should not be! Just because you cannot see what is happening does not mean it is not! If you are married to someone with an invisible illness please do not forget the vow you made to love your partner “in sickness and in health.” You made a commitment and you should stand by it.
There are support groups for caregivers to people with these medical conditions. I am not trying to heap a bunch of blame on you but please understand that I have heard horror stories about parents, siblings, and/or partners who were abusive and/or unwilling to try to learn what they were doing (or not doing) wrong. I know you did not ask to be “saddled” with someone with a disability but we did not ask to be sick either.